The Daughter-in-Law Rules

>> February 16, 2009

Whether you are blessed with a Mother-in-Law who is like a second mom......or you have a Monster-in-Law...you can always use some helpful advice on how to better get along with her.

I continuously hear people complaining about something their MIL did or said to them. I have to admit that I am very thankful to have a great Mother-in-Law. Do we see eye to eye on every single thing? Probably not.....but who does? That is what makes us unique and different. The Daughter-in-Law Rules helps us stay unique and different without stepping on each other toes in the process.

"Do you dread visits with your mother-in-law? Do you find yourself dodging ruthless comments hurled your way at every possible moment? Is battling your mother-in-law a simple fact of life, or is there another way to mitigate the age old conflict between mother and wife? In her hilarious new book The Daughter-in-Law Rules author Sally Shields lays out simple and witty strategies to aid wives of all ages in the difficult art of mastering the mother-in-law. With her 101 rules to manage your mother-in-law she scrutinizes every element of MIL relations; from the decorum of housekeeping to the delicate world of child rearing. The Daughter-in-Law Rules provides a revolutionary set of strategies, making copasetic coexistence possible at last!" - Amazon.com

With rules such as "Mark your Mother-in-Law's birthday, Anniversary and Mother's Day on the calendar and send her a card." It may sound simple enough, but it is huge. This small act of kindness will go a long way in how your MIL perceives and receives you.


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The Daughter-in-Law Rules: 101 Surefire Ways to Manage (and Make Friends with) Your Mother-In-Law! in available online through Amazon. Retail Value is $14.95. 15% of the profit from this book will go towards the National Breast Cancer Foundation.


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42 COMMENTS.:

MJ February 16, 2009 10:39 PM  

NEVER say anything bad about her"little boy'. no matter how mad you are at him at the moment!!!

MJ February 16, 2009 10:40 PM  

Sally's music is currently featured on the ABC TV daytime drama All My Children.

MJ February 16, 2009 10:42 PM  

I tweeted! http://twitter.com/sumrthyme/status/1217852802

•´.¸¸.•¨¯`♥.Erin.♥´¯¨•.¸¸.´• February 16, 2009 10:46 PM  

I'm pretty fortunate to have a nice MIL. Like you said, we don't agree on everything, but we can have good conversation, joke with each other, and genuinely do care about each other. That's saying more than most I'm sure.

My best rule of thumb is to pick your battles...I'm pretty non confrontational and have always "respected my elders", so when something just isn't worth the hassle I leave it alone.
Oh and my rule of thumb for my husband? Don't vent to Mommy when we have a disagreement...she doesn't need to know our business. :D

•´.¸¸.•¨¯`♥.Erin.♥´¯¨•.¸¸.´• February 16, 2009 10:49 PM  

Her music is currently featured on the ABC TV daytime drama All My Children ... or as my grandma used to call it "Kids".

•´.¸¸.•¨¯`♥.Erin.♥´¯¨•.¸¸.´• February 16, 2009 10:50 PM  

Your button is in the bottom {giveaway} marquee on my sidebar :)
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•´.¸¸.•¨¯`♥.Erin.♥´¯¨•.¸¸.´• February 16, 2009 10:52 PM  

Tweeted as well:
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Thank you for the chance{s}!

Cher February 16, 2009 11:12 PM  

To get along with my MIL I just tell myself that in a few hours we will be back at home which is an hour away. I smile and nod when she says something I don't agree with and I vent to my mom about her!

Staci February 16, 2009 11:36 PM  

I don't get along well with the mil at all. It seems like an on-going horror story with her. The worst, we went to my hubby's grandmother's funeral, and his mom started drama over me wearing my engagement ring (which the grandma had passed to hubby). Not only was I upset already, but add in being 6 months pregnant, and I wound up leaving the lunch and sitting in the car alone for half the afternoon.

Oh, and how about the fact she still has photos of his ex all around her house?
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Staci February 16, 2009 11:36 PM  

Your button is up.
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Staci February 16, 2009 11:37 PM  

And I follow.
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Staci February 16, 2009 11:38 PM  

I learned the book has tips to study before visiting mil with a toddler. Sounds like something we could use!
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mverno February 17, 2009 5:40 AM  

for the most part agreeeven if you don't the in one ear and out the other theory

Erin February 17, 2009 6:02 AM  

The smile & nod in agreement seems to work for me. Oh and hand her the baby. Gets the pressure off of hubs and I and makes her happy. She loves her grandson.

Overall I like her better than I like my own mother though.

~Erin
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Erin February 17, 2009 6:06 AM  

I follow you through blogger. Thanks

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Erin February 17, 2009 6:07 AM  

I shared this post through stumble upon and was actually the first to discover! Yay!

~Erin
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Dina February 17, 2009 9:39 AM  

Never assume she is one of your girlfriends - sharing your thoughts and feelings is better left to when you are with friends.

Dina February 17, 2009 9:43 AM  

The book includes The Simple Four Step Process That Any Daughter-In-Law Can Immediately Employ To Eliminate 90% of All Future D.I.L.Z (Daughter-In-Law Zings!) And Create a Personalized Set of Rules Customized for Your Very Own MIL! Priceless!

Dina February 17, 2009 9:43 AM  

Follow you on blogger

Deborah Wellenstein February 17, 2009 10:43 AM  

I think daughters-in-law just need to be their own persons. Thank you!

5webs February 17, 2009 11:59 AM  

I took the kids for a long walk in the stroller, and when I got back, she had rearranged my kitchen. I kid you not.
Alicia Webster
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sweetsue February 17, 2009 5:52 PM  

My mother-in-law once told me "women our age don't need to show off their figures" she's 30 years older than me!
smchester at gmail dot com

Anonymous,  February 17, 2009 7:05 PM  

My MIL is not that bad, she did try to redecorate my home during one visit but has since learned her lesson. My Grandmother-in-law has cleaned my house while I was working making sure to clean behind my refrigerator b/c I was neglecting the area. When my kids were little my aunt "in law" would give unwarranted advice about things I was doing wrong with them, despite the fact that she had never had children of her own. Things have improved but I still tread lightly with all. rmc1ra(at)aol(dot)com

Princess Golden Hair February 17, 2009 7:43 PM  

one tip for getting along with your mother in law is to remember that you both have something very important in common. you both love your husband.

teechbiz at gmail dot com

susan1215 February 17, 2009 9:58 PM  

Do not tell your inlaws your problems or talk bad about your husband to them.

Anonymous,  February 18, 2009 11:03 AM  

Dearest, is it naughty I just want to send my MIL a copy of the book "Put Your Big Girl Panties On and Deal With It" instead? ;) NeedingToStayAnonymous@TheInLawsStalkMe.com

Tee Hee

Anonymous,  February 21, 2009 5:36 AM  

I'd like to read this. I do not get along with my MIL. I really believe she is cuckoo for cocoa puffs. One time she told my step-daughter that the only reason I was with her dad was because he was guilt tripped into staying with me because I would have threatened suicide otherwise. The lady's crazy I tell ya!
-Terra H.
partymix25(at)hotmail(dot)com

Kim February 22, 2009 11:49 AM  

A horror story? My MIL was aghast that she did not have HER OWN photographer at OUR wedding. :)

Kim February 22, 2009 11:50 AM  

I learned that the book contains tips regarding toddlers.. which I will need SOON!

mgster February 22, 2009 12:00 PM  

I absolutely ADORE my daughter-in-law! She is like another daughter. This book could come in handy for another one of my children, however.

Anonymous,  February 22, 2009 4:01 PM  

Listen and nod!

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chromiumman February 22, 2009 5:15 PM  

the book contains tips regarding toddlers

Jinxy and Me February 22, 2009 8:12 PM  

Try to keep communication as open as possible.

Jinxy and Me February 22, 2009 8:12 PM  

I'm following you in Blogger!

rosannepm February 22, 2009 11:39 PM  

15% of the profits goes to breast cancer research
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rosannepm February 22, 2009 11:40 PM  

I follow you
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nostrilb February 23, 2009 9:25 AM  

My m-i-l is the best, but...she only complains to me, never to her son. I remind her to talk to him about her complaints, but she only complains to me! iwontru@yahoo

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